My personal story

Hi, I’m Jess, a Perth-based somatic coach here to support beautiful humans in living and parenting with more calm, clarity, and self-trust.

But that’s not where I started.

Growing up, I was the classic “good girl”  kind, obedient, never stepping out of line. But inside, I never felt good enough. I longed to be liked, to belong, and especially to be loved, and I looked for that love in boys from a young age. I became obsessed with the tiniest signs of validation, clinging to anything that made me feel wanted. That attention made me feel worthy even when it came with betrayal, inconsistency, or pain.

Throughout my life, I attracted relationships that reflected my inner wounds, ones where I wasn’t chosen, where I felt abandoned, where I lost myself. I didn’t know what a boundary was, how to speak my needs, or when to walk away. I held onto people tightly because deep down, I believed if they left, it meant I wasn’t lovable.

Then in 2021, I became a mum. I was so excited but soon after, I fell into a deep depression. I felt guilt, rage, and shame that I couldn’t explain. My baby cried, and I couldn’t cope. I felt overstimulated, helpless, and like a terrible mother. I didn’t know it then, but my nervous system was completely dysregulated. I didn’t have the tools or even the awareness to support myself.

As I slowly started to feel better, I returned to part-time work and began reconnecting with the parts of myself I’d long buried. I found journaling again, started listening to podcasts, and felt a spark returning. But one thing hadn’t changed: my anger.

I’d always had outbursts, but I’d blamed others. It wasn’t until I found myself yelling at my daughter, my sweet, innocent girl, that something inside me shattered. I would break down with guilt and shame, feeling like she deserved a better mum. And that was my turning point.

That was when I finally saw my anger as mine to understand and heal.

From that moment, I threw myself into self-development. I explored kinesiology, holistic counselling, inner child work, and books on trauma. Then one day, I stumbled across a somatic workshop and it changed everything. I realised how disconnected I’d been from my body my whole life. I learned that my triggers weren’t personal failings, they were nervous system responses. That moment was like a homecoming.

Somatic practices taught me how to regulate my emotions, process what I was holding inside, and reconnect with myself in a way I never had before.

Over time, I felt more grounded, more patient, more alive. I no longer lived in survival mode. I was finally able to respond to my daughter with presence and compassion because her emotions no longer felt like a threat to my own.

Eventually, I trained in somatic healing and halfway through the course, I knew I had to share this work with others. I had found something that truly lit me up. I’d never been shown how to breathe to soothe myself. I’d never been taught how to move emotions through my body instead of stuffing them down or exploding. This work changed everything and I knew it could help others, too.

 Now, two years on, I feel like a completely different person. I don’t live in chronic stress anymore. I feel more present as a mum and more grounded as a woman. I can respond to my daughter’s emotions instead of reacting to them. Her feelings no longer feel like a threat to my nervous system, because I’ve tended to my own.

I feel alive in my body in everyday moments, where as this used to only appear when I was out drinking with friends, which isnt true aliveness. I make decisions from a regulated, empowered place. I don’t live from the little girl inside me anymore, I live from the woman I’ve become.

And this is why I do what I do.

Because I know how painful it is to live disconnected from yourself. To not know how to cope with big emotions. To feel like you’re just surviving when you could be thriving.

Somatics gave me my life back. And now, I want to help you reclaim yours.

You don’t need to search for happiness outside of you. You don’t need to live up to anyone else’s expectations. You just need to come home to yourself, your body, your truth, your power.

You are the driver of your life.

And I would be honoured to walk beside you as you reignite the spark that’s always been inside you.

You deserve a life that lights you up, from the inside out.

Much love, Jess xxx